It happens to all of us at some stage - you want to achieve change in your life, but just cannot motivate yourself to do it. You really want to reach success, lose weight, or eat differently, but just do not have the push or willingness to take action. Every time you think about getting started on your desire to change, something more important comes up, like washing the dog or running your mom's errands. 我們每個人在某個階段都會發現自己想改變生活,但是卻找不到動力。你很希望成功、希望減肥、或改變飲食,可就是沒有采取行動的動力或積極性。 每次當想要改變時,就會有更重要的事情出現,比如給狗洗澡或給母親跑腿。
The good news is that every person, including you, has the amazing potential to turn his or her desires into reality. You can achieve your dreams! However, to do so, you have to know how. It is easy to reach a high level of motivation once you know the few important areas to focus on. To increase your motivation, follow the simple steps outlined below: 好消息是包括你在內的每個人都有將愿望實現的驚人潛力。你是能夠實現夢想的!不過,你必須知道如何來實現。 一旦你知道了幾個需要關注的方面,那么獲得動力就是很容易的事情。要提高動力,可以按以下方法來做:
1. Motivation and Goal Setting
動力和目標設定
When it comes to living a healthy and confident life, real goal achievement involves much more than good intentions. For example, it is not enough to know you want to eat differently or that you want to lose weight. Motivation can be defined as an impulse to channel energy and action toward a specific goal. This means, 1) you have to know what you want and be passionate about it, and, 2) you have to know how to set a goal. Goal setting is a powerful skill to learn because you give yourself a specific direction and you give your energy a precise focus.
要過上健康自信的生活,僅有好的意愿是不行的。例如,光知道你想改變飲食或減肥是不夠的。所謂動力就是引導你為一個目標投入精力和行動的沖動。這就是說,1)你得知道自己想要什么,并對此有激情;2)你得知道如何設定目標。設定目標是一種需要學習的重要技巧,因為你得給自己一個明確的方向,為你的精力找一個精確的焦點。
設定了目標,卻總是管不住自己、行動不了?其實關鍵不是管住自己,而是要兌現自己和目標之間的承諾。
2. Manage Agreements
管理"協定"
In business management circles, there is a saying that you cannot manage people you can only manage agreements. Indeed, great leaders are compassionate and attempt to understand the feelings of their employees, but they do not try to manage other people's emotions and personalities. Instead, great leaders get great results from their people by managing agreements. This is also true for self-motivation. Learn to make adult, respectful decisions about the direction you are moving toward. Make specific agreements about your responsibility and commitment to precise actions. Then ask yourself, "Can I count on myself to follow through with this commitment, with 100-percent compliance? Can I count on myself for that?" If the answer is "Yes" then you have an agreement. Now, as you move forward and encounter inner resistance or emotional obstacles, you can manage your agreements without becoming trapped in sticky emotions. Agreements maintain motivation and action.
企業管理界中有一個說法:你管不了人,只能管理協定。的確,偉大的領導有親和力,想要了解員工的感受,可是他們不會去管理人們的情緒和個性。相反,他們通過管理協定來從手下那里獲得極好的結果。對于自我激勵來說也是一樣。學會就你前進的方向做出成熟的、尊重自己的決定。對每一個行為都制定出責任和投入上的明確約定。然后問自己:"我能指望自己對這個承諾有始有終,100%的遵守嗎?我能做到嗎?"如果答案是肯定的,那么你就制定了一個協定。之后,當你前進的時候遇到內部阻力或情緒障礙,你就能管理這些協定而不會困在情緒當中。協定能維護動力和行為。