1. Get to know your authentic self. 認清真實的自己。
Discover the real you. Don't blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role。
發現真實的自己。不要盲目接受別人習慣施加給你的角色。你有自己的路去走。成為獨立自主的個體。不要在壓力的屈從下扮演不真實的自己。
2. Own your power. 擁有自己的力量。
Accept full responsibility for your life. Don't live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you're the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you。
承擔起你生活中應付的所有責任。不要活得像個擦鞋墊、綿羊或者受害者。不要放棄你的力量。你必須認為自己是生活的創造者,沒有人會來拯救你。
3. Find your voice. 傾聽自己的聲音。
Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that's their problem. Ask for what you want; you can't expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated-not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don't speak up for yourself, who will?
真實地建立起表達自己的勇氣。說出你的事實。你值得別人傾聽。如果別人反應很消極,那是他們的問題。問問自己想要什么;不能指望別人能讀懂你的心。告訴別人你想被如何對待——不是給出提示而是直接告訴他們。如果你不能為自己大聲說出需求,還有誰會為你這樣做呢?
4. Find your tribe. 尋找自己的部落。
Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don't like your current relationships, it's up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships。
有意識地建立和培養一個積極的包括家庭和朋友在內的人際關系網,結束拖你后腿的關系;維持這些關系純屬自責。如果你不喜歡當下的關系,那么自己決定是否改變。讓圍繞在你周圍的都是愛你和鼓舞你的人。你值得擁有最好的人際關系。
5. Practice self-care. 照顧好自己的感受。
Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can't do everything for everyone. You can't give to others when you're empty inside。
允許自己做喜歡的事情。別人的需要可以等等。認清自己不能為所有的人做所有的事。當你內心空虛的時候,你便無法施與他人。