1. Get to know your authentic self.

Discover the real you. Don’t blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role.

2. Own your power.

Accept full responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you’re the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you. Many women stressed the importance of taking responsibility for your own financial future instead of leaving it in the hands of a spouse.

3. Find your voice.

Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that’s their problem. Ask for what you want; you can’t expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated — not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don’t speak up for yourself, who will?

4. Find your tribe.

Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don’t like your current relationships, it’s up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships.

5. Practice self-care.

Avoid overwhelm by taking time to sharpen the saw. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone. You can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

6. Express your creative side.

Cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry, etc. Build a business. Be artistic. Put your ideas into physical form.

7. Embrace conscious sexuality.

You and you alone must decide the role sex will play in your life. There are no right or wrong answers. If you want it and enjoy it, let that be enough. Different women had widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally preferred, ranging from waiting until marriage to having guilt-free one-night stands. But the commonality was that they consciously decided and accepted what was right for them, regardless of how other people felt about it.

8. Be beautiful.

True beauty comes from the inside. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. Recognize that you’re a beautiful person on the inside, and you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside. You are beautiful.

9. Keep your heart open.

Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re stronger than you think. The rewards of love outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, not to live in fear.

10. Become wise.

You are highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust your intuition. Keep learning and growing. In the long run, your wisdom will become one of your greatest assets, both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others. (Many women placed a very high value on developing their wisdom.)

Reading all of these pieces was amazingly eye-opening. I offer a huge “thank you” to everyone who chose to participate.

The point of articles such as these isn’t to dictate how you’re supposed to live. The point is to offer you different perspectives to consider, so you can make more conscious and deliberate choices for yourself.

Being a man or woman isn’t about blindly following popular gender patterns, nor is it about rejecting such patterns out of hand and rebelliously embracing their opposites. Ultimately you must define what kind of man or woman you will become. This is a choice you must make for yourself as an individual, regardless of what anyone else thinks. What kind of man/woman do you wish to be? Life awaits your answer…

1，認識你自己。

發現真實的你。不要盲目的接受別人所習慣的你的角色。你有自己的路去走。成為獨立自主的你自己。不要使壓力強迫你扮演不真實的角色。

2，擁有自己的力量。

承擔起你生命的所有責任。不要活得像個擦鞋墊，綿羊，或者受害者。不要放棄你的力量。你必須接受你是你生命的創造者。沒有人來拯救你。許多女性強調自己的財政未來的重要性而不是放任于配偶關系中。

3，傾聽你的聲音。

真實地建立起表達自己的勇氣。說出你的事實。你值得傾聽。如果別人反應很消極，那是他們的問題。問問你想要什么；你不能指望別人有讀心術。你告訴別人你想被如何對待--不是給出提示而是直接告訴他們。如果你不能為自己大聲說出，還有誰會這樣做呢？

4，尋找你的部落。

有意識地建立和培養一個積極的關系網絡，包括家庭和朋友；結束耗著你的關系；維持這些關系是自責。如果你不喜歡當前的關系，由你來決定改變。使圍繞你周圍的都是愛你和鼓舞你的人。你值得擁有最好的關系。

5，實踐自我保健。

避免過多的時間以利于敏銳的發現。允許自己做喜歡的事情。別人的需要可以等等。承認你不能為所有人做所有事。檔你內心是空的時，你就不能給別人東西。

6，表達你的創造性。

培養表達創造性的渠道。探究音樂，美術，書法，詩等等。建立一套商業模式。使自己更有藝術感。把你的想法變為實物形式。

7，擁抱有意識的性行為。

你必須自己決定性在你的生命中扮演的角色。這沒有對的和錯的答案之分。如果你想要而且樂在其中，那就讓自己滿足。個人喜歡什么樣的性的表達，不同的女性有不同的看法，有人一直等到結婚，有人喜歡無罪的一夜情。公共的看法是自己決定和接受對他們來講，什么是對的，而不用考慮別人是什么樣的想法。

8，讓自己美麗。

真美發自內心。化妝和整容不能使自己美麗。承認自己內在是一個美麗的人，然后通過外表傳播出去，你是美麗的。

9，打開心靈。

無論你以前受了多么嚴重的傷害，都要敞開心扉。你比自己想像的要堅強。愛的回報重于再次受傷害。你生在世上是為了表達愛，而不是生活在擔憂中。

10，明智起來。

你很有直覺，所以深化這種能力，相信自己的直覺。保持學習和成長。從長遠來看，你的智慧會成為你最大的資產之一，對于滿足自己的要求和幫助別人都是這樣。（許多女性把增強智慧看的很重。）

讀這些不可思議的開闊眼界。我對所有參與的人大聲地說“謝謝”。

文章并不是要指示你應該如何生活，而是提供不同的觀點供你參考，使你我自己做出更為深思熟慮的選擇。

做一名男性或者女性并不是盲目的遵從流行的性別模式，也不是全盤否定這些模式而不受控制地擁抱這些模式的反面。從根本上說，你必須決定你希望成為什么樣的男人或女人。無論其他任何人怎樣想，作為一個個體，這是一個你必須自己做的選擇。你希望成為什么樣的男/女人?生活等待著你的答案...