Below, I've listed some of the traits I admire most in people. Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I'd list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find.
1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don't have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give. Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special. While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.
無私。忙碌的生活讓很多人不愿意去花時間在他人身上或對他人的事感興趣,無私者越來越少。人們可以通過聆聽,交談和耐心來展示自己的無私。
2. Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals. All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, these differences make the world go round. Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.
寬容。寬容的人讓我們感覺舒服,愿意成為朋友。每個人都是獨特的,都有自己的特點。能夠接受他人的人才是有人格魅力的人。
3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial. Feeling comfortable in one's skin and being true to one's self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess. To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be.
真誠。在這個人人戴著面具的社會里,能夠表現最真誠的自己是難能可貴的,能夠做到最真實的自己也是最可貴的。
4. Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected. Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.
細膩。很多時候,我們一味地忙著自己覺得重要的事情,而往往忽略了身邊的人。細膩的人總是喜歡想事情,關愛身邊的人,有一顆包容的心,讓你有種被理解的感受。
5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find. In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…can you hear me?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy's dad and any other reality TV mongers) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.
正直。如今的社會,到處充斥著為了金錢而做各種各樣稀奇古怪的事,為了獲得小利二曝光人家的隱私或私生活,在這種背景下,正直尤為重要。
6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don't come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.
謙遜。無論他是否優秀,與眾不同,謙遜的人會讓你切身感受到他們的獨特魅力。