失業(yè)了，別人不會(huì)告訴你的10件事。你可以就此墮落，也可以把失業(yè)當(dāng)做一次自我發(fā)現(xiàn)的機(jī)會(huì)。

    The first 30 days after a job loss will no doubt be filled with fear, anxiety and impatience. You might hear experts talk about the importance of updating your resume, leaning on your network of contacts and even starting that hobby you always wanted to try. Here, Ariane de Bonvoisin, author of The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier, shares some tips for coping with a job loss that people won't necessarily tell you about.

    1. Give yourself some real time to figure out your next step.That may mean weeks, not a few hours! Don't feel compelled to jump right back into the work force. You will feel some shock-the same way you would feel shock after any loss. Take some time to deal with that. When you are ready to jump back in, keep your options open. This might be a good time to explore a new field that you've always wanted to try but never had the time to, start a business, or go back to school.

    2. The next job you take may be a transitional one.Whether it's full or part time, embrace it. Every experience is a valuable one and you never know where it may lead. It's OK to freelance or find part-time work to get some cash flow until you find the perfect new position. In fact, you may find that you don't need a full-time job as much as you thought you did to be happy and secure.

    3. Look for companies, not jobs, and change the way you apply.Find companies with missions and values that you can get behind. Employers are much more interested in candidates who have a passion for the company than someone who is just looking for a paycheck. Remember, your resume and cover letter are not unique. With the huge number of layoffs today, there are likely to be many more people you have to compete against for a single position. You have to find new skills and new selling points in your abilities to highlight on your resume and your social networking pages.

    Your reputation and your online persona play much more of a role in getting you a new job than your resume or your cover letter ever could. Your profiles on Facebook, MySpace and LinkedIn should be spruced up and optimized as much as possible to make you as attractive as you can be to a potential employer. And don't forget to Google yourself to see what comes up.

    4. Celebrate-maybe even take a vacation.You probably didn't take time away while you were at your last job-use this period of adjustment to break free. It'll give you a chance to get some perspective. Have drinks or a party and celebrate being laid off. Put a positive spin on this. Enjoy yourself. This will be one of the few times in life that you're unencumbered by work. Read. Sleep. Do all the things you never get to do…believe it or not, you'll miss this time when it's gone.

    5. Use your health insurance while you still have it.I bet you haven't been taking care of yourself or haven't had the time. Get a full physical, go to the dentist. You can also explore meditation, acupuncture, or other complimentary therapies that can help you de-stress. Finding your next dream job is an endurance test and requires a lot of energy. Start eating well, do a cleanse, and go to the gym. Your energy and self-esteem will get a boost and this will be felt by everyone around you, including future employers.

    6. Realize that something good will come from this （I call this The Change Guarantee）.Write it down somewhere visible. In the end, this job loss is probably a good thing. Make yourself write a list of 3 things that help you see the upside from this downside. You'll end up better off, no matter what. You may not see it now, but you'll triumph over this job loss in ways you couldn't imagine.

    7. Don't rehash the story, blame something or someone for the loss or explain it to everyone ad nauseam.Blame never accomplishes anything. Don't get addicted to your story: Why you got fired or how unlucky you are. It will hold you back. There is no shame or embarrassment to be had. Every successful person has lost a job at some stage. Instead of feeling shame, honor this as just a life change that will make you stronger. Stick around optimistic people, not victim circles. Ask yourself, "Who are you not thinking of that can help you?" And also, "Who is holding you back?"

    8. Always frame things in the positive.Say things like "I'm excited I'm back in the job market. It has given me a chance to really go after a job that I love," as opposed to, "I recently got fired/lost my job." People who are optimists and have positive beliefs will always get through this change better than others.

    9. Let go of the way life should have gone.Resisting the job loss causes more pain. Sometimes you know why you were fired, sometimes you just don't. Don't waste any time figuring it out. Be mature about anything you feel may have contributed to it. See the difference between reality and illusion （reality is you lost your job, illusion is you'll never find another job.） Take a moment to go inside yourself, get silent and listen to your intuition. Some of your best ideas will come when you slow down enough and tune in.

    10. Looking for a job is now your job.It may take a lot longer to find a new job than you think it will. Many people are running out their unemployment benefits, taking six months or more to find a new job. You might have to settle for less. We're in a tough economic climate and the dream job you want might not be available for the next few years. Some jobs leave the market and never come back, and you may be facing that reality. Don't get discouraged. Remember, even in a bad economy, there are always jobs for good people.

    失業(yè)后的起初30天，無疑你會(huì)感到擔(dān)憂，焦慮，急躁。或許你聽到專家建議說，更新簡歷，仰仗人際關(guān)系，甚至是去嘗試自己一直想做的事情，這些是多么重要。在此，為大家獻(xiàn)上Ariane de Bonvoisin的著作，起初30天：怎樣讓改變來的更容易，教你一些如何應(yīng)對(duì)失業(yè)的秘訣。

    1.給自己一些時(shí)間去想想下一步該怎么辦。這可能需要幾周，而不是幾個(gè)小時(shí)！不要因?yàn)橹貧w勞動(dòng)大軍而感到不情愿。你會(huì)遭受一些打擊，就像失去其他東西時(shí)一樣。給自己一點(diǎn)時(shí)間去適應(yīng)。當(dāng)你做好了準(zhǔn)備，眼界放寬點(diǎn)。這對(duì)你來說可能是一次很好的機(jī)會(huì)，你可以去做一直想做而又沒時(shí)間去做的事情，也可以嘗試做點(diǎn)生意，或是重返校園。

    2.你的下一份工作可能只是暫時(shí)性的。不管是全職，還是兼職，欣然接受它。不管是怎樣的經(jīng)驗(yàn)，總有一天會(huì)用到。做一個(gè)自由職業(yè)者沒什么不好，你可以先找一份兼職，直到找到理想的工作。事實(shí)上，你可能會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，不一定非要做全職，也可以過的很開心，很瀟灑。

    3.看重公司，而不是工作本身，改變應(yīng)聘的方式。找那些使命和價(jià)值觀與你本身相符合的公司。因?yàn)楣椭鞲�青睞于那些對(duì)公司抱有熱情的人，而不是一個(gè)只想掙點(diǎn)工資花花的人。記住，你的簡歷和求職信并不是獨(dú)一無二的。面對(duì)失業(yè)大軍，會(huì)有很多人競相爭奪一個(gè)職位。所以在簡歷上和社交方面，你必須更加突出自己的技能和非凡能力。

    你在網(wǎng)上的聲譽(yù)和給人的印象會(huì)比簡歷和求職信更有益于你找到一份新工作。把你在Facebook,MySpace,LinkedIn上的照片裝飾的漂亮點(diǎn)，并盡可能的讓自己顯得有魅力，以便有潛在雇主雇用你。不要忘了Google一下自己，看你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)什么。

    4.慶祝一下-甚至可以去度個(gè)假。在你還沒失去工作的時(shí)候，你可能沒有時(shí)間休息--利用這段時(shí)間去呼吸一下新鮮空氣，欣賞一下美景。喝上一杯，或是開個(gè)舞會(huì)，為自己的失業(yè)慶祝一下。看的開點(diǎn)。活的開心點(diǎn)。這可能是你一生中為數(shù)不多的幾次機(jī)會(huì)，可以不受工作的約束。看書。睡覺。做所有以前沒做過的事情…不管你信不信，你會(huì)懷念這段時(shí)光的。

    5.趁你還有醫(yī)療保險(xiǎn)，好好利用它。我敢打賭你沒有好好照顧自己，或是沒有時(shí)間去好好照顧自己。去做個(gè)全身檢查，瞧瞧牙醫(yī)。嘗試接受冥想療程，針灸，或其他補(bǔ)充療程，這樣可以幫助你緩解壓力。重新找到一份理想工作是對(duì)耐力的一種考驗(yàn)，需要很多精力。所以要好好吃飯，凈化一下內(nèi)心，去健身房鍛煉鍛煉。你的精力和自尊會(huì)得到提升，身邊的每個(gè)人都會(huì)感覺到，包括未來雇主。

    6.情況必定會(huì)好轉(zhuǎn)（我稱之為改變的保證）.在顯眼的地方寫下來。最后，失去工作會(huì)變成一件好事。寫下三件能讓你從逆境中看到希望的事情。最終你會(huì)受益，不管是什么。可能現(xiàn)在你沒發(fā)覺，但是你會(huì)以想象不到的方式戰(zhàn)勝失業(yè)。

    7.不要斤斤計(jì)較，怨天尤人，或者啰啰嗦嗦地解釋給每個(gè)人聽。抱怨于事無補(bǔ)。不要沉迷于：為什么被解雇，或是多么不走運(yùn)。這只會(huì)拖你后腿。沒必要感到羞恥，或?qū)擂巍Ｅc其感到羞恥，還不如把它當(dāng)做是對(duì)自己的一次磨練。留意一下周圍樂觀的人，不要總是看到不幸的一面。捫心自問，"還有誰你沒想到可以幫助你的？又是誰在拖你后腿？".

    8.樂觀地看待問題。告訴自己，"很高興能回到人才市場。這讓我可以追求自己喜歡的工作，"而不是想著，"最近我被炒了魷魚/丟掉了工作".樂觀的人，或是抱有樂觀信條的人，總能比其他人更容易跨過難關(guān)。

    9.順其自然。抗拒失業(yè)只會(huì)讓你更加痛苦。有時(shí)候你知道為什么被解雇，有時(shí)候根本就沒有原因。不要浪費(fèi)時(shí)間來想這個(gè)。成熟點(diǎn)，該付出的總是要付出。區(qū)別現(xiàn)實(shí)和假象（現(xiàn)實(shí)是你丟掉了工作，假象是你永遠(yuǎn)找不到新工作。）反思一下自己，靜靜的聆聽你內(nèi)心的聲音。最終，你會(huì)感到豁然開朗。

    10.找工作就是你現(xiàn)在的工作。找到一份新工作可能比想象的要花更多的時(shí)間。很多人用光了失業(yè)保險(xiǎn)，花了六個(gè)月甚至更長時(shí)間才找到新工作。至少要有落腳的地方。現(xiàn)在經(jīng)濟(jì)不景氣，你夢(mèng)想中的工作可能今后幾年都不好找到。有些工作一去不返，必須面對(duì)現(xiàn)實(shí)。不要灰心。記住，即便經(jīng)濟(jì)糟糕，強(qiáng)者也總能找到工作。