Luck doesn't necessarily have much to do with making a great relationship when you are dating online.
There are lots of things that you can do right and even more that you can do wrong. If you really want your online friendship to turn into a real and romantic relationship, you need to follow some guidelines.
Online Dating Mistake #1:
Profile Discrepancy?
The first one is that if you are going to post a picture of yourself or send a picture to an online friend, make it a picture of you and not some really beautiful/handsome friend. Sooner or later you might meet this person and the truth will come out anyway. So be honest. Don't describe yourself as thin and 5'3” or really "buff” and 6"1” unless that is true.
Online Dating Mistake #2:
Not Being Punctual!
When you make a date to chat online or talk on the phone, be there and be there on time. You need to put forth the effort to keep the relationship going, too. If you don't, the other person will soon lose interest and move on.
Online Dating Mistake #3:
Detouring the Conversation into Timbaktu!
Make your conversations interesting and realistic. Don't just joke around and make “cute” remarks. Find interests you have in common like music or movies. You'll need to get around to talking about goals and values. Pay attention. You can learn a lot about a person's views on love, respect and commitment.
Online Dating Mistake #4:
Expecting Perfection from Your Partner
Don't expect to find Mr. or Miss PERFECT. They do not exist. All humans are flawed. The point is to find ones with flaws you can accept. It's the little quirks and idiosyncrasies that make each of us different and interesting.
Online Dating Mistake #5:
Rushing Your Relationship on a Freight Train
Rushing into any relationship is always a mistake. Take your time.
Get to know the person well enough that you feel comfortable and at ease when talking to them and really hate to see a conversation end.
Then, and only then, will you be ready to meet them in person and take your relationship to another level. You need to be the best of friends before you can be in love.
你在網上約會時,運氣和成功未必成正比。
你能正確處理很多事,但也能犯更多錯。如果你真心希望網上的友情升級為愛情,那么你得遵守幾條守則。
網絡約會禁忌1:形象差異?
如果你打算貼自己的照片或者發照片給網友,照片上務必是本人,而不是你的俊男美女朋友,因為你遲早會見到對方,真相也就浮出水面了。所以要誠實。別慌稱你1米60身材苗條,或者1米85健壯如牛,除非那是真的。
網絡約會禁忌2:不準時!
約好網聊或者打電話的時間后赴約,而且要準時赴約。你也必須花心思讓你們的關系深入下去。反之,對方會很快失去興趣、轉移方向。
網絡約會禁忌3:貧嘴
保證你們的談話內容有趣實在。別只是插科打諢說俏皮話。找到你們共同的興趣愛好,比如音樂電影。你們得找機會聊聊人生目標和價值。要仔細傾聽。你能從一個人對愛情、尊重、承諾的看法中獲得很多信息。
網絡約會禁忌4:期望伴侶盡善盡美
別期望找到完美的伴侶。世上無完人。人人都有缺點。關鍵是找到一個人,你愿意接受他的缺點。缺點是小小的怪僻也是個性,它使每個人都與眾不同,自成一趣。
網絡約會禁忌5:急于求成
匆忙發展起來的戀情總是錯誤的。從容一些。
好好了解對方,直到聊天時,你覺得舒服自如,欲罷不能。
那時,也只有到那時,你才可以親自見網友,并把你們的關系提升到另一個層面。在墜入愛河之前,你必須先成為他(她)的知己。