1. If you really didn't have a great time, you can always end the date early by being truthful and call an end to proceedings by saying you have an urgent meeting, phone call, appointment etc. Whilst your date will not be a fool, they will understand what you are trying to say. Better still, simply be kind but truthful and point out that you don't think you will be an ideal match and that you have had a lovely evening but that is all there is to it.

2. Never allow someone to believe there is more on offer than there really is. Do not keep your options open with someone if you don't intend to call them. It is always better to end the date as a full-stop than to keep someone hanging on for weeks afterwards. So don't falsely keep someone's hopes up, ever.

3. If you are a guy you are paying the bill or getting the check, whatever you believe. This is not the moment to start quibbling over who had what from the menu and splitting things. The age of chivalry is not dead and you had the company of the lady this evening, therefore it is your task to leave an excellent and chivalrous image by getting out your credit card.

4. If the lady insists on paying half, this is often the sign of a no-strings-attached evening out and that she prefers to leave things in a very even way. If she wants to do this, it is up to you whether you wish to accept.

5. Do not be planning deep throat kissing and sex immediately after unless it really is on the cards for both of you. And even then, remember that you should be planning to retain your enigma at least for a few dates yet so resolve not to get into bed just yet. As a guy you should be planning to see her to her cab and then give her a small kiss on the cheek.

6. If you like your date, tell them. You don't need to be explicit but you don't need to be coy either. If you enjoyed their company be forthright and confident and tell them that you would look forward to spending more time in their company very soon. If you can arrange a second date at this stage, then do so but only if you are serious. People do not like being made a fool of or being let down.

7. Do not try to avoid hurting someone's feelings by pretending you like them more than you really do. If you had a good time but won't be seeing them again then better to leave things like that.

8. Keep things relaxed, fun and casual and if you feel they are less interested than you, then keep things open-ended and optional. That way your date will have time to reconsider.

9. If you are a guy see your date safely to a cab or her car and do not make her feel any pressure whatsoever. If you are a girl then ensure you feel comfortable with this happening. If you prefer to see yourself to a cab then do so.

10. Always remember that dating is a stage by stage process and nothing rarely happens instantly. Therefore the first date was exactly that with hopefully many more to follow.

11. And finally but perhaps controversially, don't offer friendship as substitute. This is a date and has it's basis in romance. Ultimately you will find friends in many different places, but you should view dating as the possibility of establishing romance as your foremost priority.

1. 如果你確實(shí)玩得不開心，可以通過(guò)真誠(chéng)地表明你有緊急會(huì)議、電話、約定等理由來(lái)結(jié)束約會(huì)的進(jìn)程。在此同時(shí)你的約會(huì)并不會(huì)變得糟糕，他們會(huì)理解你所要試圖表達(dá)的理由。你只需善意而真誠(chéng)地指出自己并不是對(duì)方理想的對(duì)象，然后表明自己度過(guò)了一個(gè)美好的夜晚，但這就足夠了，這樣做會(huì)更好。

2. 絕不要讓某人認(rèn)為她還有更多的機(jī)會(huì)。如果你不想給某人打電話，那就不要給他們機(jī)會(huì)。完全結(jié)束約會(huì)總比讓某個(gè)人無(wú)結(jié)果地等待幾周時(shí)間要好得多。所以永遠(yuǎn)不要錯(cuò)誤地給某人希望。

3. 無(wú)論你相信與否，如果你是那個(gè)家伙的話，你總是會(huì)付款或結(jié)賬。這不是爭(zhēng)論誰(shuí)該付賬的時(shí)候。騎士時(shí)代并未消失，而且今晚有女士陪伴，所以掏出你的信用卡，給女士留下美好的紳士映像是你的主要任務(wù)。

4. 如果女士堅(jiān)持AA制，那么這通常是晚餐過(guò)后再無(wú)瓜葛的信號(hào)，也可能是她樂(lè)于均分的表現(xiàn)。如果她執(zhí)意要AA制，那么是否接受就看你的決定了。

5. 晚餐過(guò)后不要盤算著與她舌吻并立即發(fā)生關(guān)系，除非你們兩人都有此意愿。即使在那時(shí)，也要記住你應(yīng)該至少在幾天內(nèi)故意保持矜持并表示出不想上床的決心。作為一個(gè)紳士，你應(yīng)該計(jì)劃將她護(hù)送到出租車，然后在她臉頰上輕吻一下。

6. 如果你喜歡這次約會(huì)，那么就告訴她們。你不能過(guò)于直率，但也不能太靦腆。如果你喜歡她們的陪伴，那么就立即自信地告訴她們你期望不久后能與她們有更多的時(shí)間在一起共度。如果你能在這一階段安排第二次約會(huì)，只要你是認(rèn)真的，那就照常進(jìn)行吧。沒(méi)有人會(huì)愿意被愚弄或是失望。

7.不要通過(guò)假裝自己非常喜歡她們來(lái)試圖避免傷害某人的感情。如果你玩得很開心，但從此不想再見到她們的話，最好還是徹底的離開。

8.讓約會(huì)保持放松、愉悅和輕松的狀態(tài)，如果你覺(jué)得那沒(méi)有意思的話，那就保持開放自由的狀態(tài)。這中約會(huì)的方式會(huì)有更多的時(shí)間來(lái)重新考慮。

9. 如果你是個(gè)紳士的話，就一定要把你的約會(huì)對(duì)象安全送到出租車或是她的車中，無(wú)論如何都不要讓她感覺(jué)到任何壓力。如果你是女士，那么請(qǐng)你一定要確信是否對(duì)此舉感到滿意。如果你更愿意獨(dú)自一人去搭出租，那就照自己想的做吧。

10. 始終記住約會(huì)是一個(gè)逐步漸進(jìn)的過(guò)程，沒(méi)有任何事情會(huì)瞬即發(fā)生。所以第一次約會(huì)其實(shí)是期待以后更多此約會(huì)發(fā)展的前提。

11. 最后一點(diǎn)，也可能是頗受爭(zhēng)議的一點(diǎn)，就是不要用友情替代愛(ài)情。因?yàn)檫@是一次約會(huì)，并且是以浪漫為基調(diào)的。你最終一定會(huì)在許多不同地方結(jié)識(shí)很多朋友。但你應(yīng)該將約會(huì)看作是營(yíng)造自己優(yōu)先考慮的浪漫氛圍的可能性。